Being interesting is crucial for
maintaining healthy relationships. It makes people want to talk to you, it
makes you exciting to interact with, and it drastically increases how
attractive you are to members of the opposite sex. So how exactly do we become
more interesting? Well let's start off by looking at what makes people
uninteresting. There are two types of people in this category. First you have
what I like to call the Plain Jane’s (honest, non-polarizing) – these are
people who want to fit in.
Which is a perfectly fine thing to do, but
they often take it too far. They often only talk and do things that are
considered to be socially acceptable. Things that won't make anyone think twice
about them. Their jokes are the same, they like to hangout in the same places,
they watch the same shows that everyone else is watching. The reason they don't
seem interesting is because they are non-polarizing. Something that is
polarizing will cause others to form an opinion about you. For example if I
openly said that I think Mexican food sucks there will be people who agree with
me and also those who disagree with me. The reason extremely angry comments
exist on certain YouTube channels that also seem to have extremely loyal fans
is because their content is polarizing. Plain Jane's try their best to avoid
polarizing statements and actions. And because of this they fail to trigger any
sort of emotion in the people they interact with. Without being polarizing it
is impossible to be interesting. How do we become more polarizing? The best way
to do so is to expose yourself to a wide variety of things. Reading more books,
watching movies and shows that aren't mainstream, listening to lectures about
subjects you don't necessarily agree with. By exposing yourself to new ideas and
the viewpoints of other people you will start to form a combination of opinions
and tastes that are unique to you. This will naturally make you more
polarizing.
The
second group of people who are not interesting are what I like to call the
Creeps. Creeps are polarizing. They say polarizing things, They have polarizing
hobbies, and they like to do polarizing things that set them apart from others.
However they hide their intentions. When you do polarizing things people around
you will often inquire about the action. For example just the other day I
forgot to lock my bathroom door and a friend of mine walked in while I was
using the toilet. He quickly apologized, looked away, and left. The thing is
when I use the toilet I squat on top of the toilet instead of sitting on the
toilet like most people do. This in itself is a very polarizing action. It's
pretty weird. Afterwards my friend inquired about what I was doing in the
bathroom. If a creep was caught in this situation they would most likely try
hide the fact that they were doing something weird in the first place. They'd
say something along the lines of ,“What? I wasn't doing anything” or angrily
say “You know...You should honestly knock before you open a closed door” When
you prevent a full dialogue about your polarizing action people will
automatically assume there's a bad reason why you are hiding this information.
This is a human response. The unknown is scary.
That's why we have an innate fear of the dark
and of deep murky water. This bad feeling is what makes you seem creepy.
Becoming more honest is something that some people struggle with. And I think
what helps is the internalization of the following concept. The key thing to
remember about lying is that the more you lie the easier it is for others to
find inconsistencies in your stories orations. Think of it like the hydra from
the Hercules movie. For every lie you create (for every head of the hydra you
cut off) 3 more inconsistencies are born (3 more heads pop up in its place.
It's not hard for the average person to spot some inconsistencies in your
stories after just 2-3 lies. And once they do all the trust you've built with
them will go out the window. You immediately get categorized as someone they
can't trust, a potential enemy. It's better to be polarizing and have others
disagree with you on things than to be considered to be someone who can't be
trusted. No one wants to associate themselves who might stab them in the back.
Alright - So to summarize what makes people uninteresting. Plain James are
non-polarizing but are honest about their actions. Mainly because they do the
same things as everyone else and have nothing to hide.
Creeps on the other hand are polarizing but
hide their actions. Here's the secret to becoming more interesting. You have to
be polarizing and honest about your actions at the same time. When you are
polarizing and honest you will say odd things that grabs people's attention and
the fact that you're confident enough in yourself to stand behind your odd
views creates a sense of mystery. People will wonder why you do these things
and also wonder about what other odd things you do. Let's go back to the
example of my toilet habit. My friend asked “what were you doing in the
bathroom” I responded by saying “oh, I always squat on top of the toilet” I
responded honestly to my friend who just encountered a very polarizing
situation and because of this sense of mystery and interest is created. His
natural response is of course “wait...why” Take a second and note how you feel
about this situation as well. Chances are, you also feel a bit interested in
why I do this. Why does Improvement Pill squat on top of toilets? That's
interest being cultivated right in front of you. Polarizing and honest. For
those of you that are wondering why I squat on top of the toilet. It's actually
because you guys are not using the toilet properly. See our ancestors have used
a squatting stance to pass their stools for millions of years. Our bodies are
actually designed to pass waste in form. Sitting on the toilet actually creates
a sort of choke point making it much harder to get the deed done. So when you
squat on top of the toilet you don’t have to strain yourself at all. Many
hospitals actually use this form foursome of their patients so that they can use
the bathroom more effectively. Becoming more interesting is something any of us
can do.
All you have to do is work on becoming more
polarizing and practice being as honest as possible about your opinions and
actions. This will naturally make you more interesting. Speaking of how to be
more interesting, this episode was brought to you with the help of the guys at
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