Welcome to The be friend course where I
show you how to befriend more people today I want to reveal to you. The secret
to getting better at talking to peoples let's dive right into it so. The first
thing you have to understand is that you were not born socially handicapped we
humans are very social species so much in fact that you can take a baby and put
him or her in a room full of people Andover time he or she will learn to speak
purely through observation no one needs to go up to. The baby and say hey
that's a cat yes cat CA T meow say with me you don't have to do any of that if
you just talk and go about your daily activities. The baby is capable of
learning your language by pure observation and this is because. The human brain
is actually extremely good and identifying patterns and rules when it comes to
social interactions which is basically what language is if you think about it
patterns and rules so it's not that you were born socially handicapped. The
reason your social skills aren't that great is simply because you haven’t given
your brain enough time so observe interactions and become fluent in all of. The
patterns and rules in short you lack practice and for.
The most part it's not really your fault
because if you think about it in modern times we spend. The large majority of
our time behind screens interacting with each other and it's only been getting
worse and worse every generation I didn’t get a Smartphone until I was almost
like 20 years old but nowadays most kids get. Their first Smartphone before.
They're even ten and we all know that it doesn't take much skill or practice to
accept. The friend request and shoot someone a message we can type and use emesis
to communicate with each other but it's really different from actually talking
to someone in real life when you're texting. There are hundreds of little
components that are not. There hundreds of little patterns and rules that your
brain isn't able to observe about. The other person for example things like.
Their body language facial expressions tonality speed of talking proximity eye
contact etc. These are all components that you have to pay attention to when
talking to someone else in real life if you want to make friends but all of.
These factors are completely missing when
you text or message someone using your magic little rectangle in a way talking
to people in real life is like completely different language. The reason why
your social skills aren't that great and why you feel nervous about meeting new
people is simply because you haven’t been giving your brain enough time to
properly learn this language you’re fluent in texting but you're barely passing
real-life talking sort of like how I barely passed Chinese in high school. The
secret to getting better at talking to people or learning any language is to
simply get more practice to interact with more people to give your brain more
opportunities to observe and learn. The unique patterns and rules of this
language now you might be wondering an improvement pill okay that makes sense
and all but how do I get more practice well when I was about 18 years oldie
decided to take on what's called. The hundred interaction challenge to improve
my social skills basically you have a month to interact with 100 people it
doesn’t really matter how deep. The interactions are heck you could run up to
people and just say hi and.
Then run away and that would still count as
an interaction. The majority of my interactions during this challenge involved
asking people for directions while pretending that my phone died and that I was
lost and although. These interactions on a surface level seemed very simple and
short I eventually found myself transitioning into deeper conversations and
this actually led to a whole lot of practice for my brain and I did see a
pretty significant boost in my social skills by. The time. The challenge was
over now a quick little side note people always ask me to make a course for.
The hundred interaction challenge whenever I talk about it but to be honest it
wouldn't really even be a course I literally just explained to you all you have
to do but. Then. They'd often say something like oh but it'd be helpful to have
an accountability group and also if you can motivate us every day of. The
challenge so if that's something you're interested in I guess why not I'll make.
The program cut I do enjoy helping you out all you got to does sign up for my
mailing list using. The link in. The description box below and I’ll let you
know. The next time we run this experimental program back to. The topic at hand
here's a good analogy that I want to leave you with when it comes to getting
better at talking to people watching videos to learn social skills is sort of
like watching videos when you're trying to learn how to ride a bike yes it can
be very helpful to watch others do it can be helpful to learn exactly how bikes
even work but. The fastest way to learn how to ride a bike is to just jump on
and start pedalling sure you’ll probably fall over and over again but
eventually you'll get it right eventually you'll figure out how to balance
properly and this is basically what happens when you go out and start talking
to more people sure you’ll probably have a couple of awkward interactions but
eventually you will learn. The patterns and rules of.
The
culture you'll learn what's funny what’s not appropriate and over time you will
learn how to speak with finesse you will learn how to balance so just go out.
There and start talking to more people that’s. The secret hope you guys like
this video if you want to learn more about. The. Theory behind making friends I
suggest you start from. The very beginning of. The befriend course by clicking
over here or on. The link in. The description box below besides that guys stay
tuned
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